Self honesty – the key to success in the search for confidence
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“Authentic” leadership seems common sense. To me, it seems to be the only way to work with people. It makes interactions easy and motivates everyone you are working with.
It sounds so simple doesn’t it? Just deal with colleagues and everyone you meet in a genuine, straightforward and honest way. However, many people I coach do struggle with some of the basic building blocks for authentic leadership. Can you guess why?
First and most important, to be an authentic leader you must know who you are. What are your strengths? Your self-limiting beliefs? Your values? What you really stand for. Being straight and honest with yourself can sometimes be the biggest hurdle. Sometimes, we don’t even see our own strengths and weaknesses. Many people focus on the weaknesses and bury their strengths.
These barriers must be overcome. If you cannot be honest in dealing with yourself how can you be genuine with anyone else? Why should people really trust you? Playing games cannot sit with authenticity.
Talking of hidden agendas, real authentic leaders, will not accept these behaviours in others either. As an authentic leader you will have to understand alternative points of view and actually consider multiple alternatives before coming up with a decision. Finally, as an authentic leader you will also be known for “doing the right thing”.
Don’t underestimate the challenge in today’s world. Real self-honesty can be tough. Being brave enough to stand for as well as do the right thing can still be really challenging in some workplace cultures.